Originally Posted by
Floss 
If you 'lose it', she will probably rebel more. One of my sons is almost 17. He tells me he hates it more than anything when he's at his dad's and he does something wrong and his dad doesn't yell or say anything. He quietly lets him know he's not happy, ignores his crap and enforces boundaries. It works a treat with my son and DS is the one who grovels back to his dad.
I shared what was going on at Cryanoak's house with LMC (9yo). Told her that all the mature adults on here advised to "remain calm".
Told her that, although we have 5 or 6 years for me to ponder this, not to count on, or expect "calm".
Told her that, "calm or other wise", she could expect "life as she knows it" to end, for a very long time.
She said, till I'm 18? I said, probably not quite that long.
We laughed, ha ha. We'll see.
I hope what ever you decide to do, turns out to be the right thing for both of you. IDK.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
P.S. You know, I could cancel this post, that I posted b4 Cryanok's last post, but might as well leave it. Proves I'm an idiot too, wasn't even my kid!