Hi MamaDuck. I'd like to respond from the point of a long term recovering alcoholic.
My disease is threefold-physical, mental, and spiritual.
If I don't address all three areas, I am sure to fail.
The drinking is only a
symptom of the disease.
I was also married to an alcoholic/addict, now deceased.
I thought if he would just stop the drinking and drugging, we would be fine. Today I know it doesn't work that way.
I left that man for my own sanity and safety.
I read briefly through your other thread, and I hope you follow through on attending Alanon for yourself. It has been a lifesaver for me.
I also recommend the book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie.
I am glad you found us here at SR, and know you are among folks who understand.
