Pelican; thank you, since reading here on SR I have opened my eyes a bit to the notion of recovery and things like paws. I think one poster wondered if its the rum in him or the jerk.
17 years ago my AH did do a forced 6 wks in a rehab unit and stayed sober for 2 years. During that time he was happy, not depressed and we were close. He picked up a beer on vacation with some other couples and the happy dissappeared. Without a crystal ball there is no way of knowing if the happy will come back after sobriety, its probably gone forever. Besides, he shows no interest in detox, especially since I keep hanging around to enable him.......but I can't help but wonder what he would be like if he could do it.