newlywed41, sometimes our
"gut" reaction is trying to tell us something we need to listen to. I wish I had your youth with my life's experiences! You would know what you need to do!
You're at the top of what can be only be a downwards spiral with an alcoholic. The longer your husband keeps drinking the way you described, the more you will get sucked into this downwards spiral. Until one day you wake up and wonder where
"you" went. You wrote
"6 months into the relationship, he drove wasted home from the bar, and showed up at my place to see my mom. Luckily, my mom didn't realize he was drunk." I would guess this might be your first experience with this devil's disease of alcoholism.
I suggest you keep reaching out here on SR and start attending your local Al-Anon meetings.
Just my personal opinion. Take what you like and leave the rest.
Love and Peace,
Phoenix
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