Thanks Snack4.
I have just composed a quick letter giving a local support group details that provides medication,support & councelling all free but I stated that it is up to her to make the call etc! but we will give her all the support we can (go with her/take her etc.) I am going to hand deliver it tomorrow as she will not answer the door/phone to us (we do know she is ok though because we have our spies! ha!) but i think now we just have to take a step back & see what happens as we can not force her & we don't know what else to do if she does not want to change!.
I understand people have to hit rock bottom but like you say it is hard watching it when you can see someone you love destroying there life & upsetting all the family around her especially her parents/my grandparents that are in there 80's not sleeping & worried sick over her, it is so frustrating!.