Trying to get my brother to come to help with bringing a truck along so I can minimize trips and I think a third party would help avoid some level of emotional confrontation, but STBXAH has made a scene with my brother around before and while the two of them remain friendly with one another they have also had some issues between them so the plan could backfire. I guess for now I just have to let go and see how it pans out. I just hope the "new" me will have the strength to get through it no matter how things end up being.