Well my dear, your AH sure gave you a perfect lesson in How to Twist out of Trouble.
Yes, A's do this sort of thing as if it was second nature, and will blame whoever, whatever for their misery, homelessness, poverty, anger and sore toe, rather than look at the reality.
Some of the tales they come up with make Mother Goose Stories, and the Brothers Grimm seem like amateurs, but are often actually believed by the A as the truth.
It really can seem as if it must be us who are doolalley, losing our marbles or plain dumb.....but it isn't. We may be stunned for a bit, but it is not our brains that have gone missing, just our perception on things that is a little wonky.
For every bit of your post, lots of us raised our hands and answered, "me too".
Now you know what this is, you can get on with doing something about how it affects you.....and decide what you want in your life.