Sweetie, I am sorry that your family is trying to control you. It's hard when we confide in friends or family and they turn it on us and try to get us to do what they think is the right thing. Love is not controlling.
That said, try not to let it get to you. If you have not been to Al Anon, I highly recommend it, and its readings. They and this site have helped me very much in not always feeling that I need approval from others in order to do what is right for me at the moment. I don't have all the answers, no one does. It is the acceptance of that simple fact that has freed me.
Keep reading and posting, and you will know what to do and when to do it. It does get easier. Take care of you
