(((ResilientFather))) - you are giving you and your child an awesome gift...a life without being in the front row of alcoholism. You're also giving your wife a gift...you're letting her feel the consequences of her alcoholism. I'm both an RA and a recovering codie. I've learned there are consequences, on both sides, and have decided that I want to make decisions that in my best interest, as well as those I love.
I think you've done the same. It's not hard, in fact it hurts to detach, but I've found it really is best for all.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy