Hi Lost, my heart goes out to you. Warm hugs!
Someone here said, it's beautiful to have hope (people recover everyday) but that is different from having expectations. Live your life & take care of your precious children. Let them be kids & live their lives. Love your AW from a distance & like one of the posts said, give her over to her Higher Powers. As for your family, it must hurt them to know what you & your children have had to go through. They may not have the best words to express their hurt for you. It probably gets expressed in anger, frustration, etc. (I'm sure it doesn't help you, though).
Please be good & kind to yourself & your children. I will say a little prayer for you, your children & your AW today. May your family members each in your own way find recovery.