MamaDuck,
Welcome! This site has been so helpful for me as well! I am learning so much from people with so much experience & strength. Our individual stories might be a little different, but we share so much in terms of the impact alcohol addiction has had on our minds, bodies, & souls. Everyone's stories give me hope!
I am married to an A for 10 years, together about 14, separated about a year & a half (working to move back together). He is now a week shy of 10 months sober. I feel like I need this support now more than ever because *I* have no more excuses about working on my own self. I have been deeply affected by alcoholism & now that I am not focusing on my husband's drinking, I realize I have much work to do on myself! (I am the daughter of an AF, though my father has been "dry" (sober) most of my life. The combination of a sober, dry,codie father & untreated alanon, codie mother is difficult, even though I didn't grow up with much active alcoholism.
Nice to meet you here MamaDuck & Heartonmysleeve! We are not alone here!