Yes, this is how every conversation has went with my A, some better and some worse. It all ends the same way though. I wouldn't even bother to have that conversation again. Save the heartache of the harsh words, you don't deserve to be talked to that way. Go to Al-Anon and work on yourself. When he is ready, he will get help. The more you force the issue, the worse it gets and it seems like it makes the drinking worse too.
I know this is hard. I've been in your shoes for over 6 years and we have 2 small children. My A is currently in rehab for the 4th time and I am hoping and praying that this will be the last. I can't really worry about it though. The only thing I can do is go to Al-Anon and work MY program and let him work his, then hopefully we meet in the middle.