Know where you are coming from. You might want to check out Al Anon or go to counseling on your own to develop a strategy for handling the problem. Create some new friendships of your own. Maybe join some local hobby clubs to make new friends because the moral support will really help. At some point you are going to have to draw a line in the sand where you say I will tolerate this no more and that you will only stay if your spouse takes certain steps. You can't be expected to stay in a situation where your security is jepardized. Offer the person you love the opportunity to be better, go with to AA meetings/counseling, and if your spouse won't, well, really it is on them. Don't expect immediate results, but don't sacrifice your life to enable a drunk. No one expects you to do that.