Originally Posted by
StarCat Mostly, but not completely true. You can tell some things from their words.
My A is in rehab right now, for a week and a half, and all he talks about is himself. He'll ask about me, but change the subject as soon as he feels I've given some sort of an answer ("But enough about me, how are you feeling, sweetheart?" "I went shopping today, I really needed some -" "That's nice, did you get the alarm clock I asked for? Everything is horrible in here, I really miss you, etc, etc").
That is how I know it's not working yet.
I agree with you. You can definitely tell when things start to change. My A is also in rehab right now. He has 11 days left of his 30 day program. Like yours, he was all about himself the first few days. I could tell that he was starting to change because he stopped telling me how horrible everything was, stopped being so negative all the time, and actually stopped interrupting me just like yours was doing. It may have been small changes, but it's still change in the right direction.