My personal rules of thumb are:
- Treat them like a "normal" adult, meaning do not over-pander or under-expect on behaviors. Whether they can live up to "normal" standards is up to them, but I will no longer accept abberant behaviors and lying in my life.
- Never promise, because an addict also cannot promise. Take it day by day, watch the ACTIONS, don't pay attention to the WORDS.
- My personal boundary after active addiction is TWO YEARS track record, to start believing a change is real.
CLMI