When I read these horribly sad stories, I wonder if staying really helps the A anyway? Their primary relationship is with alcohol. That's their comfort, their "friend". My father in law lingered for a long time after we were told that it would not be long before the effects of his alcoholism took him. He was not drinking then - didn't have the mental capacity to drink. He was so awful to the nursing home staff that they had to keep him perpetually drugged. He was out of his mind for years before he died.
There's nothing wrong with making the most out of your life, especially when there's really nothing you can do to help. No judgment from this group.