Originally Posted by
fourmaggie 
He cannot "see" you. He can't see outside of himself."
I so love this quote...and its soooo true...how can someone love YOU if he can not love himself....that is why they drink/drugs...etc...
they have some terrible issues to look at themselves if they really did love you...that is alot of work..honest (program) work...honest with himself?? hummmm
It is a good quote. Says a lot. My xah is in major crisis. He says this crisis is because he moved away from the kids, misses them, lost his family etc. When I speak to him on the phone now (no longer has email) and try to talk about the kids he really doesn't hear it. He talks about how much he misses them, he talks about how devastated he is, how his life sucks, but he doesn't actually ever ask about them. If I talk about them he cuts me off to talk about himself about 85% of the time.
As with the other stories it was a theme in our relationship. It is pretty mind boggling.
He checked himself into the VA so maybe this is his bottom. I hope he finds recovery.