Originally Posted by
fourmaggie 
He cannot "see" you. He can't see outside of himself."
I so love this quote...and its soooo true...how can someone love YOU if he can not love himself....that is why they drink/drugs...etc...
they have some terrible issues to look at themselves if they really did love you...that is alot of work..honest (program) work...honest with himself?? hummmm
My counselor talks in a lot of analogies. I continued to ask and say I don't understand. So he gave another.
"Imagine you are walking with someone down a beach. Beautiful. The waves are crashing. The sun is setting. Seagulls. Looking at your partner and smiling. Hand in hand. Then...you accidently step on a sharp rock. Your foot is bleeding. The pain is intense. Suddenly, you can't see the seagulls. You aren't hearing the waves crash. You don't notice the sunset. All you can see and feel is the pain in your foot."