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Old 12-31-2010, 10:03 AM
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keepinon
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Letting go would seem to be a good start..I had to do it with all the ideas I had for my daughter including that she would graduate high school.Letting go of the house would free you from a huge burden..Tally put it so well..the house or your sanity..
You asked about enabling..to me monitoring or supplying alcohol or drugs is enabling, paying bills is enabling,staying around putting myself through utter hell when others aren't doing anything to help themselves is enabling.Oh honey..I can relate to the wanting to check out thing..except WE see where it would lead us and do NOT want to go there..but how tempting to get blotto and have no responsibilities?
Your counselor sounds right on the money EXCEPT you DO NOT know that he will die..I have heard and seen amazing recoveries..alanon gave me hope and serenity..please go..you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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