What an overwhelming and heartbreaking spot to be in.
Originally Posted by
stuckinthemidst 
But where do you draw the line between enableing and simply helping?Anyway any words of comfort support or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Are the things you are doing making it easier for them to continue their addiction? If it is then you are enabling the drinking, not helping the person. Someone here said we can love people right into their grave, quite literally, by enabling the addiction to the detriment of the person.
Can you get some physical distance (reduced or no contact) from the chaos so that you have a chance to attend some al-anon meetings, get some clarity, some time to decompress so you can do as Tally suggests and re-prioritize etc. Everything seems like an emergency when there is so much crisis and chaos surrounding us. If you can get away from all that for a short time it may really help you in moving forward.
The thing is, it is their emergency, their crisis - not yours. It doesn't feel like that right now I bet. They probably don't feel it either because they are effectively handing those feelings and crisis moments to you, and you are taking them. They aren't yours, hand them back.