My sick AH has an adult son & siblengs who live in another state and I have contemplated contacting some of them and "passing the buck" so to speak. I don't want to traumatize his son because he doesn't deserve it, but I also don't want to have to make the call to tell him his dad is dead and explain to him what happened. I don't care for his siblings at all, so if I let them know I need to be on my way out the door. I can't take their craziness and denial, and the guilt they will try and put on me. None of them know the extent of his illness though. Any suggestions?