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Old 12-30-2010, 09:46 PM
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ToBeSerene
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Texas
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Nothing is fair with alcoholism ...

My world fell apart when my husband was being treated for liver failure and I was unsure if he would ever leave the hospital - I was scared to death and still didn't know how we got this far. He was detoxing and very ill - so all the questions were directed to me and all the treatment was directed to him. I didn't realize at the time how very sick "i" was. I had perfected my codependency and enabling skills - I was almost perfect

You will never guilt them or manage them - they need to decide on their own when they are "prepared" to work their recovery. I know it didn't play out like you would expect but count your blessings and learn from the experience.

I've found that the many tools I've learned from Alanon apply to ALL aspects of my life. I'm a better wife, friend, daughter, sister, aunt, professional and even stranger! I'm more comfortable being me. I have alot to work on and along way to go but I feel so much better and I handle adversity in a much less destructive manner.

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Take Care ....
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