Thank you so much for posting and directing me to the right questions, which were hidden by my codependent blinders! I enjoy being married and don't want a divorce, but I don't want to be a mistress to alcohol, and I can't overlook serial cheating. I see a bleak future if I stay. In fact, I wish I had left before now and saved myself the heartache. So, perhaps the better question for me is how do I constructively grieve for this dead relationship and move forward?