Hi Ladybug,
Welcome! I am sorry what has brought you to us, but we welcome you.
Here is a classic "sticky" post that many have found useful to break down your process and make it less overwhelming:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...2-leaving.html - follow the
link within and read the discussion to get a great, practical, logical step-by-step guide. Look for the "Ten Steps" part that outline exactly what steps to take and the order of the steps and logic to them.
The reference to that link came from this page of incredibly useful information:
Classic reading for Friends & Family of alcoholics
CLMI