I'm almost in the same situation with my wife. We don't have kids but everything else is the same, sell the house, find job, start again. I need to do it this time, I feel like I've lost part of my life to alcoholism. I think in the end we all feel that we have to let go of it, sooner or later. I wish I'd done it 3 years ago. If I/we dont do it now, I will be saying 4 years this time next year, and so on, and so on, till life is over.