Thank you all for your help! I finally don't feel like I am totally alone. I got the book on codependency at the library today and started reading it. I am also planning on going to Al-anon this week to see if it can help too.
I have spent a lot of time the last few days thinking about this relationship. I honestly do not feel like it is going to work out in the long run. However, I also do not feel like I am ready to let it go yet either. I know that doesn't make any sense!
Naive, I have read a lot that people in recovery are encouraged not to engage in new relationships in the first year. Does this include relationships that are not new? I do wonder about stepping back for some time, but I also feel like that could just make things worse too. He is in an inpatient treatment right now and he will complete it in 10 days. I don't want to make things worse either. I do know that it is all up to him and I need to do for myself, but again that guilt really creeps up on me.