Hi Violet and welcome to the SR family!
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Your story is similar to mine. (All our stories have lots of similiarities, tho).
I was married to my alcoholic for 14 years.
I left because he continued to drink and drive drunk. I knew that financially, legally, and mentally I could not continue to subject myself and my children to this risk. I chose to get legal help and leave the marriage.
There were other reasons, of course, but the risk of losing everything and being sued because of dui was not a risk I was willing to live with.
Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed.
Here is a link that contains steps that have helped myself and others here:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html