One more thing......if you read my thread "now he won't leave" My XAH said and still says horrible things to the kids. IT IS NOT OKAY! Most recently he told my 6 year old that mommy was kicking him out (uhhhhhh, my house, not yours. that's why I left) and he didn't have any place to go or any money and he would probably freeze to death. My daughter tried to give him her piggy bank. It is heartbreaking and it won't be easy. But we are here for you, and it IS OKAY TO GO AND YOU SHOULD NOT FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT.
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