Jackthedog...I have a 20 and 16 year old daughter and 14 year old son. In my own way I have been teaching them detachment and the serenity prayer for things that are out of their (my) control. If it wasn't for detachment, my 16 year old daughter would be a basketcase because she has naturally been sensitive and has the propensity to throw a huge pity party. My son seems very accepting of what he cannot control which seems a lot to do with his nature as well. I personally don't show a lot of emotion (never have) as I find detachment for me is not an emotional thing, more like a personal decision. Not detaching...now that is emotional. I'm not saying to never show emotion, just saying focusing on detachment and serenity prayer seems to have gotten us very far in coping with alcoholism.