I'm glad you found this website. Now find Al-Anon and you'll be on your way to a happier life, as I learned in 2003.
Here's how to find a meeting:
How to find a meeting in the US/Canada/Puerto Rico
Each meeting has a little (or a lot) different flavor, so try at least six meetings, some different, before deciding if Al-Anon is for you. Also, I don't know how old your kids are, but I started my daughter in Alateen when she was 10 (she is 15 now). It made a huge difference in all of our lives.
Take care,
Cyranoak
P.s. I forced her to go to the first six meetings, and after that I've left it up to her. She went every week for a couple of years, and now she only goes every once in awhile (which I have to deal with since I want her to go all the time). However, she'll be the first to tell you how much of a difference it made in her life.