Welcome, lovemydogs.
I'm sorry that you're experiencing this. I'm glad that you found SR.
Like others have said, Alanon meetings have been so helpful. It's recommended that you go to 8 meetings and then decide if you think it's of use to you. What I found with my exA is that I couldn't possibly "babysit" enough--the drinking still happened. So it was best that I took the time to go to Alanon and take care of myself. My life is very different and much happier now! And there are also on-line meetings available...
I hope you keep coming back here. It has been a lifesaver for me.
Again, welcome~
posie