Welcome to the SR family!
You will find support and information here. We understand. You are not alone.
Alanon meetings and SR were like a life-ring tossed to me as I was caught up in an ocean of chaos. I was exhausted from trying to be loving, supportive, responsible and sane. I needed help!
Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed.
The sticky (permanent) posts at the top contain wisdom and experience. This is one of my favorites:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html