Can somebody explain this?
Hi I am new here- I am a registered nurse so I feel that I should understand/know a lot more about alcoholism/addiction than I do and know how to deal. I am learning though and have done some alanon meetings online. Well married to AH for 10 years. Did not know he was an alcoholic, as he had a period of 7 or 8 years of sobriety when we met. Right after out daughter was born I started finding liquor bottles (empty) all over the house. Called his parents to find out why, that's when they told me the secret that he had everyone in his family keep. Since that time he has been in rehab 3 or 4 addtl times, lost his incredible construction business, filed for bankruptcy, the list goes on.
My biggest problem is that we have 3 little ones 7, 5, 113 months that I was entrusting to his care so that I could work as he was and is still not. I came home from work 7p-7a and he is falling down drunk for the 100th time. Not to mention porn magazines in our office. (Did I mention he has a porn addiction too). I finally told him he had to leave and his parents took him in (they live 700 miles away). He has been gone 2 and one half mos. no financial support, not too many phone calls to the babies, Not working, and when we do speak he is seething mad. What the hell is he mad about?? How do I deal with it? Says he is going to AA meetings 3x a day--but it doesn't sound like he is working a program to me? He calls me stupid, is rude, etc. etc. Is not asking to come home at all though. I think he is too embarassed to face everyone here. Everyone is shocked that he could take off and just leave his family. Business is trashed. Please explain why he is so angry!!!
Thanks for your input!!