Wow.
Hi Britbrit, and welcome to Soberrecovery.
YOu posted your first post about the same time as another person,
so let me say first WELCOME!
I'm glad you said you'd been lurking and reading,
that's usualy the first thing I ask people to do
is to read the stickies and threads
and see how things work.
Wow.
I was also at one time 23 years old with two children
(heh about a million years ago)
and in a relationship with an addict/alcoholic.
I'm glad to read you're going to give Alanon a try
because I remember there were times
that I would just call a friend
at that point - it could be anyone really -
and say,
"I don't care what you say, just talk."
"I need to talk to anyone who is over the age of four."
LOL
But to have the pressures of raising children
especially very young children
with no partner -
and whether he's in the house or not
when an addict or alcoholic
is married to their disease first
you are alone.
And not a person on this forum
would argue that one.
and that isn't even a little bit funny.
Alanon can give you the SANE support you will need
to get your littleones through whatever is going to happen
because those people have been there as well.
Support in the real world is so very important.
I'm glad you've found us too!
Such a well written first post -
and quite revealing as well.
I hope you will continue to post
it may not be as hopping here tonight
as it usually is
because of the holiday
But now that you're here
you're not alone any more.
Welcome to SR.
I look forward to getting to know you better!