No one here is going to judge your mom..I am the mom of an 19 year old alcoholic/addict in recovery. A very common situation is to say they want help to appease people, but really not be "done" with their using. I personally went to alanon and it has helped me immensely..I got some really good boundaries and refused to enable my daughter any loneger.She finally CHOSE to ASk for help.Your mom and you both could really benefit from alanon..also the stickies at the top of the page have some great info..I personally really like the one about 10 things you can do to help the alcoholic.