Hi Misjudged and welcome to SR.
Well, you've found a group who knows what you're feeling
because we've each either been there
are going there
or woke up there .....
and we're all looking for the way out.
I hope you'll take the time to read the stickies
(those permanent threads up at the top of the forum)
there's a wealth of information there
some guidelines for posting
where the restroom is ...
(kidding)
stuff like that.
Watching a family member struggle with alcoholism
is incredibly painful and difficult
we try to support each other here,
and rather than tell you what to do
we hope by telling you what *we* did
can give you some ideas
that you can apply to your own situation
as you see fit.
With my own sister
I eventually had to go completely no contact
and it has remained that way
for seventeen years.
My sister is 16 years older than me
and we had different mothers.
So while my situation is different
in a way ... they're all so very much the same.
Not everyone has to go to such lengths
to find their own peace of mind, however.
Others will be along in a while
(it may be slow tonight because of the holiday)
this is a very fast-moving forum
and there's almost always someone here....
Meanwhile -
the others will be along in due time
who will welcome you
and help you get comfortable
because there's nothing we can say that's going to work quick.
and maybe something someone says
can help you decide what you want to do next.
Again - WELCOME!