starcat
you have really changed your life in a matter of hours! good for you; you sound solid.
you did not ask, but i would caution you about entering a "talking" relationship with someone who has disrespected you and attacked your esteem. there was obviously something there to attract you to him - those qualities are still in him. i'm worried about you in this regard.
and....welcome to sober recovery. you're right; we do understand.
i wish you peace, and a good and healthy stint with yourself, and (hopefully) al-anon. real people who understand, and you can form friendships with, is invaluable.