By the time I left my XAH, I had been told so many times I was frigid, I actually believed it. I was resigned to the idea that I had reached the age (I was 43 at the time) where I no longer had an interest in sex. I thought "that part" of my life was in the past.
Imagine my surprise a year or so later when I started feeling sexy and having "urges!" Looking back now, it seems ridiculous that I had sentenced myself to a life without sexual intimacy. And that's just one example of the many things I believed about myself that turned out to be untrue.
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