A few thoughts - The porn was a problem with my AH too. He was totally addicted to it-bad cheesy porn too which when I snuck and saw it made me laugh out loud. I also felt like his intimacy was so detached - there was no real romance - it was all for him - which was not much fun for me - I just wanted it over when we did do it and and would fake it lots to speed up the process. Remember that Seinfeld episode when Elaine said "Fake Fake Fake Fake Fake". That was me- got good at it
. Anyway- I get more intimacy from my greyhound from us snuggling and loving and kissing and just enjoying each other's company than I ever did from AH. I will take the four legged hairy creatures anyday!