Rayn,
You mentioned something I've been wanting to ask ...
Very well could just be me as all women are different but is anyone else challenged with not wanting to have sex with their alcoholic partner? We've been through alot, fertility treatments 10 years ago and alot of drinking over the last 5+. I think of him as my best friend but the more I learn, the less healthy I think that is ... I've secluded myself with him, I have no real close friends that I confide in.
So he's been relapsing since Thanksgiving and lack of sex came up in our arguments again - haven't endured that since before his treatment. I'm sure we can all relate to bad relationship times with alcholics but does it get better?? He brings it up as a reason he's unhappy or frustrated but agrees he shouldn't drink. He said when he stops drinking our relationship is no steamier; every time he relapses I become an unhappy introvert.
I can't decide if I'm just tired of getting hurt (emotionally) or maybe it is me. We've been married for over 20 years ...
Thanks for listening.