This is a great thread, exactly what I also need to hear right now. I am going to keep these things in mind when I talk to AH in January to have "the talk."
Originally Posted by
coyote21 
In order to get better, she has to quit drinking alcohol. And in order for me to get better, I have to quit "helping" people who aren't willing to help themselves.
goldengirl you can say no to him without feeling guilty. If anything think of this situation as a gift to him and a gift to you. A gift to him because he gets to be an adult and take care of himself. A gift to you because you get to maintain the boundaries you set and continue to work on yourself.