Why do you want this guy? In what capacity is anything that he brings to the table good for you or what you need? I was in your position, 10 years ago. Now there are kids involved, and while I wouldn't trade them for the world, if I had only known then what I know now I would have thankfully bowed out of the relationship. Stay strong and take it for what it's worth. After 10 years on that ride, I saw run far and fast!