OH and the other thing I meant to include was an observation of my stbxah and my daughter who is 2. First of all he has absolutely no parenting skills, and wants to give in everytime she cries. We all know how that turns out. Secondly, his relationship with her is all about CONTROL - he gets upset if she doesn't respond to him when he comes int eh door the way he wants, or when she's playing or sit with him when he wants. Wow does it resemble the control he had is our relationship. DOes he just not know how to have a loving relationship? It bothers me for our daughter that his control will hurt her, it is such an abnormal relationship.