it is hard but worth it. as they say in the rooms, What is good for the family is Good for the alcoholic. so know that you are doing the right thing by keeping insanity away from your daughter. Hope you are reading all the classic posts about codependence, and know that you will come out on the other side for the better. You may want to find alanon meetings around you, it will keep you supported and chances are if this gets the law involved she may be required to go to AA. The al-anon group will let you see past any of the As manipulations too. Good luck ResilientFather and welcome to Recovery