Originally Posted by
nicam I want him to want to.
This set the codie alarm bells ringing in my head! He is who he is and no amount of wanting will change that.
If someone takes me out, buys me dinner etc then I don't feel I owe them anything! Why do you feel he 'owes' you? You can always say no, I can't afford to take you out, lets stay in. Are you giving too much in this relationship? Where are your boundaries? It was your choice to spend your money on him. Being too broke at Christmas is a result of your choices.