Hello tupsi, Welcome to SR.
I begin to see a red flag if my part of any situation involves my doing things for others that they should or could do for themselves. Learning more about his conditon might help you define between what is actually helping him and what is not. Perhaps your husband's doctor can provide information & direct you to a f2f support group in your area.
Please take a look at our sticky section; its a great sources of information and inspiration too.
We also have Mental Health forum here on SR you might want to visit.
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