Originally Posted by phlegmatic

Sorry to re-repost, but I keep obsessing over this. It is not wrong of me to want to move on even though he needs help, right?

I am so worried about "kicking him when he's down" since he is unemployed and just living with his family (even though his stuff is all here).

I also wonder if I am doing right or wrong since so many people on SR talk about staying with their A. Am I supposed to stay with him? I can't handle staying in the relationship with my AH anymore.