Originally Posted by
Phoenixthebird 
You don't know how READY I'm to move out ......but I don't want to spoil their Christmas all together. I have already told them not to expect such a nice warm and cozy Christmas Day, considering their father. If I just can learn how to keep my mouth shut, I'm hoping my DDH won't be such a jerk on that day, at least.
Alanon teaches us that we must put our own recovery first and foremost. From all your postings, I get the visual of a household held hostage by an abusive man.
Why would Christmas Day be any different for this man in regards to his behaviors and attitudes?
My heart hurts to read of your situation. You are the only one who can make the changes in your life to get out from underneath this abuse.