My Ex wants to see the kids on Christmas day. Our situation is a little different. He decided he needed help again a little over 2 months ago. He completed inpatient treatment and I totally believe he hasn't had a drink in about 2 1/2 months. He has mentioned to me that he is completely open to see them whenever works for me because he has NO plans. I did feel bad at first, I think I would feel sympathy for anyone spending Christmas alone like him. He mentioned to me the next day that his local AA has an open house on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day so he plans to go there if he doesn't have other plans. Sounds like a pretty good solution to me.
I realize he can decide to take a drink at any time, but what encourages me the most is the fact that he is WORKING his recovery this time.