How are
you doing today, lostfamily? I know reading questions like that when I first found SR confused me. I, or another poster, would spill all the cr-p my/their A was doing, and some one would go and change the subject.
I know it's hard with everything that is going on, but I really hope you take time this week to do something for yourself. Something that allows you time to let go of her crazy behavior for at least a moment. Focus on you and your kids; play with them and be completely with them.
(I write this as much for myself as for you. Remembering to do something for myself is so hard. Being completely with DS in the moment while we play together is something I need just as much as he does.)
Wishing you peace in this crazy time and continued strength, Lostfamily.